Permission to help another

July 13, 2012 (San Diego)

            Last evening I had a wonderful opportunity to help another person become a bit more self assured. The opportunity was presented at a Toastmasters meeting. I was scheduled to be the speech evaluator for another member. When I asked that person about the speech, she said she was totally not prepared. She only could give a speech if prepared. In fact she did not even want to be at the meeting she was so distraught. Not only that, but she hated giving speeches.

            Wow, that was a lot more than I bargained for. Take a breath David. What can I do for this person?

            I asked two questions:

  1. What is it that brought you to Toastmasters? Answer: getting better at my job.
  2. Is getting better at your job important to you? Yes, very important.

           I then made an offer. I could do a speech and she could evaluate me or she could do a speech and I would evaluate her. There was some time, so I asked her to give me a thumbs up/down as to whether she would do the speech or not.

            She did the speech and won the “best speaker” award for the evening. She felt good about her speech and the heartily acknowledged by the club.

            What a blessing to be able to help a person go from: “I hate giving speeches” to an award winning speech in 60 minutes. Love it.

            I know this battle for success in giving speeches is not over for her, but last night was a wonderful success for all.

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